Forget all the motivational speakers, the hustlers, the grinders, the tinders and the waxer delinquents on the interwebs and anti-social nerdia.
For you basic best life 101, you need to do these things and it involves a lot of stopping. If you don’t know how to stop, then learn how to. Some things you just have to learn by doing.
Stop comparing yourself to other people. Everyone is on their own journeys, replete with their own pitfalls and successes, big and small. There is no point to comparisons, everyone is unique, and also equally insignificant, none of this will matter in a hundred years.
There is no one perfect life. You only live life once. There is no point living with negativity in your heart. Stop being negative. You don’t have to a creepy, toothy smile plastered on your face like a ‘toxic positivist’ but you have just have to lighten up and see the brighter side of things.
Don’t give a rat’s about what others think of you
Stop letting other people decide what your life is about, who you are. You don’t know them, they don’t know you well enough either. Their behavior and opinions stem from their internal issues. Know that. If it’s good, stick with them. If it’s bad, ignore it or walk away.
Health Is Wealth etc.
Start caring about your health. Health is everything we have, and you will realise it when your knees start to crunch in your 30s. When it starts fading, that’s when you become aware of just how lucky you are when you were in prime shape and well-being. Meditate, take care of your mind as much as your body.
Stop going after things that aren’t for you
Dream job, dream partner, dream house, dream car. Stop chasing, start living. What you have is what you need, keep the rest in your dreams. Stop wanting to impress people with material success.
Stop wanting to be perfect
No one is. Everyone ha flatulence.
Stop being on social media
Get out and be social for real. Social media wastes your time and makes money for influencers. Stop engaging with ‘content.’
Wanting to have a sense of control is the most common affliction for modern-day humans, and it is entirely not possible to have it all the time. Don’t sweat what you cannot control or you will be a slave to anxiety till you are dead.
Stop to do nothing once in a while. Stop, stare, you might just get some brand new ideas and ways to improve your life. In the end, it doesn’t really matter.