Nowadays, divorce is part and parcel of modern family life. Sometimes, relationships break down and thatís to be expected. In fact, did you know that divorce has increased by around 20% in the last few years?
If youíre going through a recent divorce, then youíre not alone. Although divorce is normal and no longer holds the stigma it once did, it can still be difficult to come to terms with it.†
What to do after a divorce?
Once your divorce has been finalised, it may be hard to know what to do next. You may be left wondering if you should take up a new hobby, or how to adjust to normal life once again. Although itís different for everyone and there is no Ďone-size-fits-allí approach, here are some steps you can take to soften the blow.†
- Get support from your family and friends†
First off on the agenda, itís best to reach out to family and friends rather than suffer in silence. With 45% of adults in the UK feeling lonely sometimes, itís important to reach out to your support network – especially in a period of change such as after a divorce.††
- Go to therapy if you need to†
If youíre finding that talking to friends and family isnít quite cutting the mustard, you may want to consider therapy. Sometimes just having an impartial party to offer help and advice will help you understand what went wrong in your marriage, and how to move forwards.†
- Start planning your future projects
As a newly divorced single, now is the perfect time to start planning future projects to look forward to. If there are things youíve put off doing or never had the chance to do, then now is the perfect time to explore these avenues!†
Whether thatís home renovations, DIY or taking up a new hobby Ė make the most of your free time.†
- Sort out all the pending legal matter
Now that youíve separated from your spouse, itís best to sort any outstanding legal matters as quickly as you can, without under settling.†
If you think you didnít receive a fair settlement, you might be able to claim for professional negligence against your solicitor in a no win no fee basis.†
- Join a group†
If youíre recently divorced, chances are you may feel excluded or lack a sense of belonging. A good way to combat this is to join a group. Not only will you be able to meet new people, but youíll also be able to get involved in something to take your mind off the divorce.†
- Come to terms with your emotions†
Finally, one of the most important steps to take is to accept that youíll be sad sometimes. As divorce is a monumental change to anyoneís life, itís normal to feel sad or lonely at times. By coming to terms with this and acknowledging your emotions, you can begin to come to terms with your circumstances.†
The bottom line is that divorce is one of the toughest times anyone will go through, but there are some things that you can do to help you move on. From reaching out to friends and family, to investing in therapy sessions and taking up new hobbies – you can be well on your way to feeling Ďnormalí again.
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